Dating activities for discussion
Meet the experts: Sarah Jones is a relationship expert, and founder and CEO of coaching website Introverted Alpha, and Sameera Sullivan is the CEO of Lasting Connections, an elite matchmaking service. "This is a great ice-breaker because it's a little mischievous and flirtatious," Jones says."It's a sign you'd like to know her beyond surface level, while still giving her the freedom to reveal what she wants to share—and doesn't." This question lets you get a sense of what she feels strongly about and whether she's spirited and heartfelt.This question rocks whether you're new to a city or you've lived there for years."You get to talk about local places she likes, see what you have in common, bond over the people, culture, and why you moved to the area in the first place," Jones says.Everyone loves to laugh, and talking about the things that make you both fall into a fit—cheesy pickup lines, dad jokes, a particular You Tube flick—gets the conversation flowing... Lots of laughter on a first date is a great sign, Jones says.This conversation starter can bring a light, playful, untethered feeling into your mix of questions, Jones says.Good: You can see if she has a tight bond with her parents or siblings. "The five people we're around the most, shape us the most; her relationship to any one of her closest friends and family members tell you a lot about her," Jones says Waiting to be seated at your table or for your waiter to arrive?Break the ice with a simple, straight-forward question like this. All these alternatives offer "insight into her lifestyle, taste, and knowledge about other cultures." Sullivan says.
"This is a great query because a dream job merges meaning, passion, and lifestyle," Jones explains. If things get a bit awkward or serious, divert to a more carefree topic.She'll get a little reminiscent with this conversation starter. And who knows, maybe you went to the same camp or vacation spot each summer."It's fun to see what you might have had in common as kids," Jones says You'll learn about the people closest to her in life."This is a great question to see how flexible she is," Sullivan explains.You can see if your personalities and interests jive, too. "Obviously you'll get an insight on her temperament," Sullivan says.